As a psychologist, I believe that I am privileged to bear witness to people's life stories and to provide a space for them to talk openly about their distress. With this in mind, I feel strongly about being empathetic and compassionate, seeing ways of behaving as strategies for protection rather than 'problem behaviours'. I believe that there is always a reason why people do what they do; it is just that sometimes there are unintended and unwanted consequences to this.
Together, we can explore this in a safe and containing environment so that we might move to a position of looking to change what we can change, and form a new relationship with things we cannot change. I try to make therapy feel safe by being open about what I do and making sure that I am collaborative at all times. I understand that change is difficult and would never ask you to do something that I wouldn't be willing to do myself; something I'm happy to be tested on in sessions (yes, I've definitely 'accidentally' bumped into a glass door in public before as part of a graded exposure task!).
I also find that my sense of humour creeps into the therapy room at times. While I certainly do not think that distress is funny, I do believe that lightening the tone is a fantastic leveller, can reduce the impact of a heavy session and hopefully shows that I am also human (and possibly models being imperfect with rubbish jokes).
Although there are limits to what I might share about myself and my personal life, I also realise that it is difficult to be open about your most personal experiences without knowing something about me as well. I am happy for questions to be asked, as long as there is an understanding that I may not answer everything.